The client relationship with The Assistant

Perpetually a fan of control freak-ism yet perpetually in love with spontaneity and not looking at spreadsheets. Yep, that’s me, if we’ve not yet met.

I got to a point in my career some years ago where it became abundantly clear that being a one woman army wasn’t quite going to cut it, if I wanted to maintain my sanity that is. I got to a place in which doing everything on my own had become a burden. To feel burdened by logistics and admin and scheduling wasn't exactly my dream in pursuing professional dating. I'm one of the lucky few who adores my work. Every aspect of it thrills me, with human connection at the very centre. What I found happened as time went on, was that the business side of this life was infringing on the human side of it. And that needed to be remedied.

Working with an assistant instantaneously opened my eyes to just how much I had sacrificed in my relationship with clients, doing it all by myself. Suddenly the more tedious parts of keeping things ticking over - which I found less engaging and harder to keep on top of - were handled. I had all this time suddenly to invest my energy in real life. I was more present in travel, in being present, I was not constantly needing to look at my phone. And yet to my delight, that isn’t where the benefits of working with an assistant have ended. She has gotten to know me incredibly well. To be honest, I think if we were both asked my favourite restaurant in Paris, or my favourite 5* hotel in Canada, I think that my assistant would be able to answer you faster than I would. That is how well I can trust her to advise you on any of my preferences or needs. I often joke that she’s like an encyclopaedia of Michelin stars, but I truly fear that she might be working on such a thing in this very moment as I type.

Assistants often become close confidants to companions - not just to us, but to the amazing men who reach out to us and who share the adventure of life with us. Some clients feel incredibly nervous at the idea of speaking with somebody who isn’t ‘Jessa’, when they get in touch. And I get it. Before developing a raport with an assistant, it can feel like a curveball. It is the realisation of somebody else handling sensitive information, when the person you truly want to get to know is, well, me. But if I can assure you of anything, it is her professionalism. Her commitment to sensitivity and hard work has been evidenced over the years.

So don’t take the assistants professionalism as an indicator that the she is a barrier to us companions, nor that our assistants are there to judge. I simply don’t keep the company of boring or unworldly people. I don’t have time for people who mince words, and I don’t have time for people who lack empathy towards others. The companions assistant is the perfect balance of determined and gentle, and I look forward to you making plans with my assistant's guidance. She will be delighted to advise you on anything from scheduling to gifts, and is so much more than simply a booking assistant. Let her reassure any of your uncertainties, and ask anything you might be wondering. She is always happy to help!